September 2025: Newsletter

Navigating Transitions with Self-Compassion

This past week, my son started kindergarten.

The weekend before school started was a scramble—gathering supplies, making sure he had everything he needed, and purchasing a brand new backpack (it had to match his best friend’s).

When we entered the classroom on that first morning, he gripped my arm so tight that I could barely lift my hand when it came time to greet the teacher. She gave me a knowing glance. I did my best to lead him across the room, but the leading felt like dragging. Slowly, I knelt down to his level and asked him how he was feeling. He said, “I’m really nervous. Please don’t go. I miss the nursery.” I felt my stomach lurch. I wanted to make the situation better and calm his nerves. I took a deep breath and gave him a big hug. I whispered in his ear to tell him how brave he was being. In that moment, I was reminded of so many times I’ve started something new—a job, a degree program, a relationship. Transitions are full of complex emotions. For my son, there was fear of the unknown and longing for what felt safe and familiar. Looking around the room, I saw the same fear on the faces of the other children clinging to their parents. It was a powerful reminder that we’re rarely alone in these experiences.

The past two weeks have been filled with the usual kindergarten adjustments: sleepless nights, morning struggles, and a perpetually runny nose. In harder moments, I try to remind myself that this phase will pass, to give myself grace when my patience runs thin, and to check in with my son each night about how he’s doing. And, to check in with myself about how I’m doing.

Over the past decade, I’ve studied the experiences of new teachers as they transition into the profession. Research shows that how teachers interpret their early challenges—particularly the stressful ones—shapes their long-term orientation toward and commitment to teaching (Feiman-Nemser et al., 1999; Ingersoll et al., 2018; Pajares, 1992). In other words: the way we make sense of our situations during transitions really matters.

One powerful tool during these times is self-compassion—a kind, nonjudgmental awareness of our own struggles. Studies show that self-compassion supports a growth orientation, resilience, and greater well-being. In my own research with beginning teachers, those who learned to take a self-compassionate approach during their transition to teaching developed more of a resilient mindset and growth orientation, higher self-efficacy, were less burned out, and reported greater job satisfaction at the end of their first year.

Self-compassion involves three interrelated but distinct steps:

  1. Mindfulness (v. Over-Identification): Take a moment to see the situation from a balanced perspective and remember struggles are temporary—things will change and improve over time.

  2. Common Humanity (v. Isolation): Recognize that worries, uncertainties, and disappointments are normal and all humans are imperfect—others have faced similar challenges.

  3. Self-Kindness (v. Self-Judgment): Offer kindness and understanding to yourself, as opposed to being harshly self-critical—extend yourself the same grace you’d extend to a friend in need.

As I’ve been reminding myself, taking this approach and engaging in self-compassion practices can help us face challenges with greater steadiness—and even find small moments of joy along the way.

For all of you starting a new school year—as teachers, teacher educators, administrators, parents, and students—remember: transitions can be difficult and they can be windows of opportunity for growth.

In joy for the work,
Rebecca CRTWC Executive Director

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